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Saturday, April 14, 2012

Jenny's Prompt

Ms Jenny at Saturday Centus offers us a writing prompt each week.  They are challenging.  Many weeks I have to dig deep.  This week was easy,  a hundred and five exactly.  I think I have mother issues.  Mother has been long gone but she is still with me, bless her heart.

The prompt this week is: "Why oh why oh why..."

Number of words: 100 PLUS the five words of the prompt for a maximum word count of 105
Style of writing: Query
I’ve never felt talented or special. There was always something wrong with everything I did. Didn’t you know how hard I tried? Did I ever come close to making you proud?

I suppose I should thank you for giving me this drive to always be better, ever striving to be the best at whatever I tried to do.

“No job is worth doing if you don’t do it right.” I’ve heard that a thousand times.

Now I am an obsessed adult still trying to please my mother. Mom, why oh why oh why could you never just once say, “Good job. I’m proud of you.”?

19 comments:

Lynne said...

May I be "mom" for a moment? You have such rich talent you are productive, creative, faithful, a teacher, caretaker, humorist, turn the cheek kind of gal, worker and writer too.
(I ache for mother approval too. Maybe the answer is to stop the chain . . .)

Journaling Woman said...

If this is a true story, then it's not because she was displeased with you. I believe, it's a parent's job to help mold his/her child into a productive adult. This should have been balanced with praise and love language.

If this is purely fictional, then you've done your job as a storyteller in making me feel for you and want to respond.

T

Sue said...

I'm with Lynne. You are about as talented as they come. And if this piece is autobiographical, all or in part, you are not the only friend of mine who has suffered due to parental perfectionism.

I wonder if we as parents realize how much we affect our children in that regard?

Excellent Centus, Gail. Really top notch.

=)

Irene said...

I hope you remembered to praise your children when they did a job well. If so you broke the chain. Someone has to be the first. We all make mistakes, Gail. I hope you can forgive your Mom and that you forgive yourself too. We all need to do that. xox

TexWisGirl said...

sometimes, with all the baggage we tout around with us, it's a wonder we manage to live at all...

Dreaming said...

I'm wondering how many children feel that way?
That's an important lesson... I'm going to let my children know, today, that I am proud of them! Thanks!

Nezzy said...

...and I could never ever do anything good enough for my father. I'd try to surprise him by shinnin' all his boots and shoes....I'd forget to polish the sole edge.

I'd wash and wax the car...I didn't scrub the white~walls. I know today that's where my perfectionism came from. Tryin' to get a 'good job' outta my dad.

Great story sweetie. If this is true I pray ya had someone in your life to make up the difference there...I had my Mom and grandmothers who praised me to pieces.

God bless ya and have a marvelous day my friend!!! :o)

Laurel's Quill said...

Gail, I knew we had more than blogging in common. I could have written this myself about my Mom...word for word. I'll bet it made YOU a better mother though, didn't it! cyberhugs, laurel

A Quiet Corner said...

I think she's waiting for you to realize it yourself!...:)JP

Karen S. said...

Oh boy do I know that question. Our mother's must have gone to the same mother-school...but I think her never letting me think I was good enough, was sad, and hurtful, but in the end it has helped push me in ways that are good! Don't you agree?

Judie said...

I had a mother like that. The last straw came when, one Christmas, I was cutting up potatoes in her kitchen. "You're cutting those potatoes all wrong!" and my response, "They're potatoes! If you don't like the way I am doing this, just do it yourself!!!" End of story.

Laurel's Quill said...

I just nominated you for The Sunshine Award, Gail. You can check it out on my blog. Laurel

LindaG said...

*hugs* ♥

Stef said...

AS a mother, your post reminds me of how improtant it is to validate my children...daily. Thanks!

carolina nana said...

The way your mother was must have been a generational thing because my mom was exactly like that. She would never compliment me on a job well done,she would just tell me what I could do to improve it !!
I've talked to several women our age and they say the same thing about their moms. Guess it helped make us the self relient women we are today.Guess we should say thanks but thats hard to do I know !
Blessings for your Sunday
Marilyn

~Kim at Golden Pines~ said...

I agree with the other comments, but will say that I see in you so much talent and creativity that I wish I had! :-)

Terra said...

It is ever so easy to beat ourselves up seeking acceptance from others. As a mom I strive to ensure my children know how proud of them I am, how special I think they are, however, I see they still seek more. Wonderful Centus.

Viki said...

I think a lot of women feel this way about their mother's. I think my mom did the best she could at the time. I've come to the conclusion it was what it was and there's not much I can do about it. Loved your centus.

Jenny said...

Are we sisters?

I think I would have cut off a finger to hear a word of praise.

This really hit me between the eyes.

Really powerful writing.

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